I got the garage James…

James and I had a dream of buying our own property one day... To be on the property ladder!... I remember going on walks with James and when we saw a house we liked we used to say "one day"! And then we smiled and kissed... Our dream house was a 2-3 bed house with a little garden, a drive, a garage (for the Van!) and a little conservatory in the back where we could do a winter garden, have a sofa and a little wood burning stove... That would be the dream! Oh, and a big kitchen! James loved to cook and me to bake! We would had another cat besides Kiko, a company for Kiko and maybe a dog too?! We had so many dreams... Dreams of a simple happy life together... I managed to get part of the dream this week... alone... I got into the property ladder, I am the proud owner of a flat! It has outside space and even garage and parking spot... I got the garage James... But, even though I am happy with this achivement, it still feels a little empty and sad... I should be achiving this with James... I should be stepping into the property ladder not alone, but with him... Widowhood makes you feel weird things... I guess important life moments will always be triggering... Hope you are proud of me babe... Amo-te...

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